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LISTEN TO YOUR CHILD

THIS IS THE MOST IMPORTANT POINT TO REMEMBER

It is sometimes very hard for a child to describe his true feelings, or to really know if things are right or wrong. This is especially true in this age when sex is discussed so openly and perverted sex is accepted as "normal".

He or she does not want to be seen as different from the crowd.

He may feel uneasy by a suggestive remark or even a request to do something he feels is not right.

This would probably be from an adult or child older than himself, seeking a sexual contact. This older child may be an abuse victim himself who has found himself discarded by an abuser, or is working for an abuser, or is a born abuser.

Unfortunately it may be someone closer to home. A brother, step-father, neighbour, uncle, or some other family member. The child will be aware that the contact, physical or verbal is not right, especially if "it's our secret".

If the contact is physical the sensations he experiences may not be unpleasant, and may be allowed to be repeated, but there is a very good chance he will still feel very uneasy, knowing it was not right.

This is the most likely time he will want to talk.

This is the time you need to be there for him

Initially he may not really know how to approach the topic on his mind, because it is something "we haven't talked about before". He may appear preoccupied or fidgety, and really "skirt" round in his conversation with you. You get the impression he is trying to tell you something, but finding it hard to do so.

This is the most important and vital time for you and your child. Often it is at the wrong end of the day, just at bedtime, when most kids try to stretch those extra few minutes out of you. This is the time you need to get it right, by giving time, despite the inconvenience.

This is the first opportunity to stop the abuse, and unfortunately some parents miss it altogether.

If you can step in and act before the abuse pattern becomes established, the results will not only prevent more corrupt and perverted practices, but will help bond that trust more in your child.

Listening to your child at all times is a vital role in parenting and protecting your children from all dangers. It can avoid a sickening nightmare first for your child, and later on for you, the parents. Save your child by listening to this cry of help and responding in love and compassion.

Jesus said "See that you do not look down on these little ones. For I tell you that their angels in heaven always see the face of my father in heaven" Matt. 18.10

Trust your children to Jesus by seeking Him today and committing them to His care and spiritual protection from conception to individuation

 

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